Regarding the difficult but important conversations I have had in the past 36 (ish) hours.
I'm thinking about tactics.
Thoughts are still forming.
I'll circle back later.

There are some specific people I'd like to get involved in the conversation so I'll tag you all when I have something more coherent to say.

Laters! ❤️

I'm getting there.
I'm thinking about "friendship evangelism", a common idea in the church, and how we might apply the approach in other, non-religious contexts.

Put this picture in your mind:
A man stands on a street corner, Bible in hand, sincerely and loudly proclaiming the Gospel.

How are people reacting to him?

@stueytheround

When I was in L.A., there were often street preachers in West Hollywood.
They were generally either ignored or harassed. Once in a while, debated. Almost never listened to.

@tyghebright And this is *exactly* what I see happening to people screaming their agony here on coso.
I'm not suggesting for a *moment* that they ought not to do it. I've literally seen people here on coso being told to not be so angry/be nicer/be polite.
So I've been trying to get my head around it.
The trouble is, that my analogy makes it sound like I'm doing exactly what I'm trying not to do ie. Telling folk not to be "nasty".
I'm mostly just exploring my own mind in public. So much to learn!

@stueytheround @tyghebright I've done some study in nonviolent and empathetic communication and what I've learned is that when people are screaming agony, as you artfully put it, they aren't looking for advice, they don't want to hear that you're one of the good guys, and they don't want to be told to calm down.

They want to be seen. Most folks have an idea of what they need to do, or want to do, but what people lack is confidence, and support.

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