Big favor to ask.
I finally got up the nerve to tell my brothers I wanted a meeting w/ them to discuss how the thee of us are going to work TOGETHER in taking care of our mothers. How the three of us are going to COMMUNICATE with each other on everything that has to do with our mother.
We meet in 1/2 hr.
Any calming energy, wishful thoughts and prayers are very very appreciated. ♥️ ♥️ ♥️ ♥️
I've made a list of what I need
to talk about, w/ "I feel," "I'm hearing you say," etc.
@see_the_sus you've got this.
stay on msg. don't get caught up in old fights and harms. focus forward.
🙏🏾 🤞🏾 💪🏾 😊
BLOODY FUCKING HELL!! Brother2 just called to say he’ll be “at least” 30 mins late. I knew one of them would pull this shit. 🤬🤬
I arranged to meet with my bestie in two hours to make sure I kept on track and had an excuse to excise myself should the meeting not go well. As well as to have a friend to hug afterwards.
Brother2 made it over almost an hour late but Brother1 and I hadn't gotten too much out of the way. Even with my list, it's still hard for me to stay focused and not meander around into other topics. 😬
It went fairly well, thankfully. We all agreed, (well, Brother2 still wants to live in la-la land), that the future is only going to get rockier with my mom and the sooner we can find a way for the 3 of us to be organized together, the smoother'ish life will be for all of us.
@see_the_sus @singlemaltgirl ❤️ Good , maybe you can make semi regular mom meetings and it will get easier over time!
@see_the_sus @singlemaltgirl ❤️ Good , maybe you can make semi regular "mom status" meetings and it will be about/for mom and not your guys problems and maybe it will get easier over time!
@see_the_sus 👏🏾 well done, you! you did the heavy lifting & made things happen. this is awesome. ofc, this is never a 1 convo deal but opening it takes a lot & you did it!!!! 👏🏾
your bros will always be the way you know them to be. but you wrangled them. & you're getting them to see some shit. gentle reminders, nudges, & more family mtgs will get them there.
i hope you were able to decompress w/ you bestie 😊
Thanks ♥️♥️
She and I weren’t able to hang out after all. She was at work longer than planned and by 5 o’clock we agreed it was just too damn hot to go out and drive anywhere. Instead we’ve got plans for this Friday.
@see_the_sus you have prepped well. do not let their shit get in the way of what you are trying to do. you've got this. you can't control what they do. all you can do is control how you react.
deep breath. calm yourself. you can do this. stay on msg. & you have your bestie to rant & vent to when it's all done.
you can do it!!!!