G’morning y’all 🥰
For a brief moment there was peace and cuteness between the two fur beasts. And then Mads told Smitty to beat it. I wish I knew of some special magic that would help Maddie accept him. They’ve been together now for 23 months.
@see_the_sus My boys have shared a house for years, they still don't "love" each other. But they do mostly tolerate one another.
Their fights are rarely if ever vocal, and they never really injure each other, so I've learned to accept that. :(
@sfleetucker @see_the_sus I had two brothers from the same litter, Fat Boy and Killer. They never, ever, through their long lives, got along. I always wished they would but I think all four of my cats secretly wished the other three would evaporate. 😋
What confuses me is the very first week I brought him home, I found them on the couch together. Then, once in awhile I’d walk in the bedroom & they’d be next to one another. As we were moving last August, they became very close; no fighting, laying next to each other in the hotel rooms, cleaning one another.
But as we’ve settled into the new apartment, she seems to becoming more and more irritated towards him.
That's pretty much my limit on cat psychology. Our SPCA has behaviorists that consult, maybe your local one does too. I'm sorry they're being catty. :(
Thanks ❤️ I’m pretty certain a lot has to do with Maddie being very snooty, which is why I call her the queen. She’s 13 1/2. Whereas Smitty thinks he’s a six month-old kitten in an almost four year-old body. I had thought that adopting a younger cat would be good for her, have someone to play with.
@see_the_sus @sfleetucker Pam Johnson-Bennett's book Cat-vs-Cat is a great help for defusing hostile cat situations.
The two boys I mentioned were part of a three-way dominance circle (Fat Boy < Moose, Moose < Killer, Killer < Fat Boy). So if one got upset they displaced their anger on their 'inferior'... who did the same... and it circled endlessly.
All disagreement were, of course, expressed through urine. 😩
Cat vs Cat didn't make them love each other but it decreased the pee by 95%.
Thanks, I’ll check it out! ❤️
@see_the_sus @Myana I thought something similar with Carrot to help Tom, but now I'm quite clear that the correct move is simultaneous adoption of kittens or adopting an already bonded pair. :)