When we label an abuser a “narcissist,” we’re contributing to the likelihood that people are going to blame his mother – often thought of as the cause of narcissism, rightly or wrongly — rather than blame the men who socialized him. And this is especially unfair to mothers given the statistical likelihood that his mother was a victim of abuse herself – usually by the future abuser’s father.

https://lundybancroft.com/narcissists-vs-abusers/