"The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of self and the chaos of our
strongest feelings. It is an internal sense of satisfaction to which, once we have experienced it, we
know we can aspire. For having experienced the fullness of this depth of feeling and recognizing
its power, in honour and self-respect we can require no less of ourselves." https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5e7cf4825b02c00b6a142f0c/t/5f4bee98ceb27e4afe99bd7c/1598811800640/audre_lorde_cool-beans.pdf