If you are a man and, when presented with gender-related statistics that don’t look good for men such as rates of intimate partner violence, you say “yeah but actually women also—“ you are most likely eroding the trust your female friends and relatives have in you. Statistics are not about you personally. Stop taking them personally and listen.
@lemontart As if a woman somewhere doing the same thing that men do at a phenomenally higher rate somehow makes it what... it's okay now? Oh, I guess Sheila touched Matthew's pee-pee wrong, so that means that the massive amount of rape and assault by men that happens isn't serious?
It's like watching 3-year-olds go "But Sheila did it too!"
Okay, so Sheila, Mitch, Brad, Tommy, Bill, John, Ed, Harry, Frank, Joe, Biff, and Frederick can all go to jail, okay?
@AskTheDevil it’s so important to acknowledge statistical likelihood in discussions about violence and I can empathize with wanting to feel defensive about that but it’s unhelpful at best. Public discourse and media representation have a huge impact on people’s personal expectations and even their ability to identify a statistical pattern repeating in their own lives.
@lemontart Precisely! Thank you!