Alright, buckle up, I'm threading this because I need it off my chest, and non-consensual power dynamics are bullshit.
I've known a particular individual for a very long time. They're funny, nice to talk to, self-reliant AF, and smart. If distance and circumstances were different, I might even consider trying for a third round.
(2/???)
One issue that we have is that I am monogamous, they are polyamorous. I'm honestly OK with this, for multiple reasons, but the biggest is: I don't own them, they aren't mine, I can't make them be something they aren't, and I wouldn't want them to change if I could.
After our second go, we didn't talk for a *very long time* (over 10 years). The moved on, found their happy, I worked on myself and, at a friend's suggestion, reached out to apologize for my half of the relationship (3/???)
falling apart.
We've talked off an on for a while. We've reached the conclusion that our circumstances aren't right, and we're basically best off where we're at. We'll maybe try again in another life.
We still talk regularly. However, the last couple of times we've been on the phone I've noted that one of her current partners has suddenly cropped up and mentions of "cuddles" were brought out.
(4/???)
I'm kind of used to this from our last time together, so I shuffle off the phone.
First, time it happened in this round of communication, they noted that I was frustrated and apologized for putting me in that position.
Tonight, however, said partner came home, said their good nights and mentioned that they were going up to bed.
(5/6)
@Error418tws yeah, that's a passive aggressive move on the partner's part. Stepping back is a good idea for you.