So, "Human" + "role of Wife" is the woman I live with. She's a human first. I then think of her role as "wife" and adjust how I treat her (with too much affection and love, BTW). That attribute is really important, but it doesn't overwhelm her fundamental characteristic as a human - with all its faults and folly.
She has other attributes such as "woman" and "executive" and "cook" (really good one, too).
She's also "sister" to her brothers. That I have compartmentalized. Critical to "us".
These simple objects are the building blocks of understanding the world (a little better, at least).
If I don't break these down, I quickly get overwhelmed because I can't hold all of those concepts in my head all at once. That's what geniuses can do. That's not me. But, even a simple laborer can, brick by brick, build a structure that is useful.