I'm still going down the "abstraction" rabbit hole. It's a plentiful domain to unpack.
Apparently, this is why clients and friends think I'm smart.
Silly them.
I'm just simplifying things down to fewer "objects" so I can understand them.
The really hard part is getting those abstract objects defined.
But, one key model that works for me: Define the most generic abstract object on a topic (i.e. Human) and ask what "attributes" need to be added to turn it into what you are seeing.
These simple objects are the building blocks of understanding the world (a little better, at least).
If I don't break these down, I quickly get overwhelmed because I can't hold all of those concepts in my head all at once. That's what geniuses can do. That's not me. But, even a simple laborer can, brick by brick, build a structure that is useful.
So, "Human" + "role of Wife" is the woman I live with. She's a human first. I then think of her role as "wife" and adjust how I treat her (with too much affection and love, BTW). That attribute is really important, but it doesn't overwhelm her fundamental characteristic as a human - with all its faults and folly.
She has other attributes such as "woman" and "executive" and "cook" (really good one, too).
She's also "sister" to her brothers. That I have compartmentalized. Critical to "us".