Thinking about my childhood a lot lately. Unsure why.
Insight:
While you have control over who you become, you start from a reference point. You can only deviate from that point.
Like a tree that grows around an obstacle, it is still originally planted somewhere.
And, if scarred early on, it carries it onwards.
It might be able to "grow out of the scar", but the scar is still there.
Some scars make you stronger.
Some keep you from reaching your potential because of when they happened
Nevertheless, growing out of the scar is your responsibility. Nobody else's. No blame can be cast on others. Only, maybe, towards yourself for supporting your own timidity.