"Patriarchy prefers instead that you perform a self-reckoning, one in which you learn to turn anger not outwards where it belongs and can target injustice, but inwards. The result is that instead of using anger to destroy patriarchy and its injustices, anger will instead destroy you, with sadness and shame, self-hatred and trauma. Do not let sadness become your currency."
https://feministgiant.substack.com/p/letter-dear-8th-grader