What a shallow world we live in! Has anyone ever been rejected for all of the wrong reasons when it comes to dating? I’m plagued with always being dumped for “being too polite”….as if I’m being fake about it. What you see with me is what you get….and some people just stupidly can’t handle that. Have we become such a materialistic society that good people are considered boring now? WTF??
Don’t give up.
I sometimes lament the nice guys I walked away from because of preference for bad boys who had nothing but pain to offer.
The right partner will find you 💫
@LnzyHou “right partner will find me”? When?? I’m 47, never been married, no kids….can’t pass a third date to save my fucking life because of being unfairly considered “boring” or having “ulterior motives”. Latest disaster of a date happened when I tried to pay for both mine and my date’s meal and unfairly being accused of treating her “like a whore”. Seriously, WTF?? Getting accused of crap you haven’t done is very disheartening
@Punisher1976 @LnzyHou Are you using a dating service? If so, make sure your profile states you are an old fashioned guy who likes being polite, opening doors for others, etc. That way there can be no accidental pairing with someone who mistakes old fashioned politeness for “treating her like a white” (I have no idea how she got there but I do know some women are uncomfortable with having doors opened and the man paying. But I also know some don’t mind a bit if that and done really like this.
My son was dating a new woman years ago. He bought her roses & took her to a really nice restaurant.
After a couple drinks, she announced she was going to restroom. When she stood up, so did my son.
She was immediately horrified & accused him of trying to follow her into the restroom.
He was embarrassed & dumbfounded by her conduct. That was their last date.
He found a partner who appreciated a man with manners.
@LnzyHou @cjcrew @Punisher1976
I would just feel seen
@Idissent @LnzyHou @Punisher1976 Do you not feel seen now? I’ve seen you, I’ve always liked your name.
@Idissent @LnzyHou @Punisher1976 It is, if you let it be. I’ve known people, mostly women, who are so concerned with not allowing men to be condescending toward them that they refuse to allow a man to show these polite actions. It doesn’t bother me but it does bother them. I always thought it was because I was raised in a different time period and with 4 brothers. I’ve never felt intimidated by most men, I grew up around so many of them.
@cjcrew @Idissent @Punisher1976
Men have never intimidated me either.
Politeness is not condescending. Women who think it is are too defended. Enjoy the kindnesses extended by anyone.
Nobody taught this POS manners either.
@LnzyHou @Idissent @Punisher1976 He’s an ignorant asshole. He has no clue how to be polite. Hell he has no clue how to be nice, even his nice is creepy.
@cjcrew @Idissent @LnzyHou @Punisher1976
I consider myself a strong, capable woman.
Yesterday, I had a tire going down, so I pulled into a gas station to air it up. Took off the valve cover and pulled the air hose over. I nice man in a pickup was next to me, and asked if he could help me. I said “yes, thank you so much!” He got it aired up and I thanked him again. Could I have done it myself? Of course! But turning down his offer would have been rude. Saying yes told him that he was a good guy.
@Smccune55 @cjcrew @Idissent @LnzyHou Wow! You deserve a follow for that wonderful response. It just takes a little consideration on the part of both parties with situations like this. Too often I have been met with standoffish behavior for similar situations. 🙁
@Punisher1976 @Smccune55 @Idissent @LnzyHou It’s not easy to accept help, especially if you’re the independent type. I do try to be accepting when I am cognizant of someone trying to help.
@Smccune55 @cjcrew @LnzyHou @Punisher1976
I like this, I would do the same
@Smccune55 @cjcrew @Idissent @Punisher1976
Would have joyfully accepted his kindness.
@cjcrew @LnzyHou @Punisher1976
Oh, I feel seen. Definitely here but I thought standing up when a woman leaves the table was a sweet gesture