@Siren_six i used to have a manager that treated his wife & children like this. his wife had to call him at work to get permission to feed the children dinner. i found that out because she called once when he was out of the store. she was in tears because he wasn't there & the kids were hungry. i told her to feed the kids & i'd deal with him when he got back.
every chance i got, i urged her to take the kids & get out.