@tyghebright So is queer what you prefer as well? I've been coming out to some close friends as non-binary but as someone closeted for decades it's hard.
Depends on context. Queer is good for many circumstances. If I'm specifically talking about my gender, then I will usually say I'm a trans man.
Often I say gay trans man. But then, that's already getting a little outside the usual definitions of things and is confusing to many folks.
Most accurate is trans masc genderqueer androsexual, but who the fuck understands all that, so Queer is good.
@tyghebright I prefer queer as well. It avoids yet another quip about cookware, in my case.
@PurpleDragon proud of you for coming out! 🤗 Remember to be gentle with yourself.
@evistre Thank you so much 💕 Still getting the gumption to talk to sis, only one in the fam that won't disown me
@XSGeek @PurpleDragon @evistre
I am careful to use it as a general term or for myself, but not to apply it specifically to any individual unless I know how they feel about it. Because there *are* a fair number who find it hurtful.
@tyghebright @XSGeek @PurpleDragon
I try to do the same, though I admit I'm not always successful. When I was coming of age, we were eyeballs deep in the reclamation of "queer" so a lot of the folks around me used it proudly (if at all). "Queer community" was the accepted catch all shorthand.
Always good to be reminded that everyone didn't come of age at the same time I did, and so might not be as comfortable with the term, thank you 💜
@evistre @tyghebright @XSGeek
I always try not to assume anything until I know a person. I have been asking about pronouns when I've known someone a while.