So so true. Diane died 6 years ago next month and these days are really hard on me. First date/marriage August, My birthday Sept, October enters hospital for last time, November her death, December her birthday.
Diane is but a thought away. ๐ซ
@LnzyHou many time a day.
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How does the world keep turning when they are gone? Thankful for the time you had together, and wishing it were more.
@Toni_Walker me too 13 years is all we had including the 2 before we wed.
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It's too short. And there are bittersweet reminders every single day. My heart is with you today.
@NorthernInvader Yep. I take his birthday and the accident/death dates off work every year, automatically. I will be of no use to anyone on those dates.
@danialexis I understand that. I'm lucky i'm retired.
@NorthernInvader I seriously suspect she considered herself a lucky woman, โcause you! ๐ค
@HopeSeeker I hope so - I'm a very difficult person to live with as in person I'm very quiet, introverted, and get quite antsy when surrounded by too many people, can't cope, feel overwhelmed, and need to isolate myself for a bit. Her friends never understood and thought I didn't like them.
@NorthernInvader None of us are perfect!๐คฃ I still think she felt lucky to have you!
@NorthernInvader We will keep you company best as we can. ๐ซ
@NorthernInvader Ooof! That's a rough stretch. I'm sorry for your loss.
@Ironworker229 yes 5 months each with one or more such anniversaries
@NorthernInvader Yeah, I was counting off on my fingers. Just as you get past one, another awaits, I guess. Do you have any rituals (or whatever) that you observe to move through this tough time of the year or is it just continuous for months? ๐
@Ironworker229 just continuous and go for walks along the Columbia River
@NorthernInvader I wonder if recognizing the individual days with the intent to grieve on them with a plan would help? Like go to a place that she enjoyed or make her favorite meal. Grief is an insidious beast and difficult to manage, as you are all too familiar. Every year on the anniversary of Dad's passing, I consciously spend some time grieving the loss of him and it seems to help keep it contained. It gets less intense over time (it's been 18 years) , but hasn't gone away.
@Ironworker229 Thanks but trust me that would not work for me. I'm working on it. I'm OK.
@NorthernInvader I get it, and though it's not as close, today is the anniversary of my Grandad's death and I never truly got over that.
As I always say to people, it doesn't get easier, it gets less hard. Thoughts to you and thank you for sharing part of Diane's memory with us ๐
@BillyBones That's a good way of putting it. Thanks.
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My deepest condolences, my friend! I know how it is. โค๏ธ
I'm here if reaching out helps, I'm sure we all are. ๐ค
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