@Paige814 Yep, there isn't a need to put on a front. Be real and take a chance with it. When I got on here on November 11, 2017, which was 6 days before the public opening of the site, in the first 15 minutes, people were ragging on me to get my AVI changed to something I like. When they saw that change, it let them know I was here for the ride. Haven't had any problems, and I can say it's been real good. A haven some days, to be sure. Let us know if you need anything.
@MisterE thats good of you, thank you. Im sick of having to be someone Im not, over there. Dont get me wrong, ive joined in with the nonsense and even started a few things, but i always walk away feeling like shit. Does that make sense? Ive realised it will never end there, never get better, its no good for me
@Paige814 Yes, it makes a lot of sense since that nonsense was what everybody was trying to be rid of at first. That's why OGs will try to keep to a particular set of behaviors for themselves. Like, kindness and understanding, which is not weakness. If they see someone struggling, they will offer help. If others offer up the behavior that everybody has gotten away from, they don't last long. Kudos to J for building this site for everybody!
@MisterE I just want to laugh, be supportive to others and most of all be the real me. I do spend my evenings on SM, I listen to youtube and chat, and I want to make friends. I sound like a 12 year old LOL but thats really all I want.
@Paige814 You sound like most others with what they want. If people don't behave and peer pressure isn't effective, then they are gone, one way or another.
Here are a couple of things to help:
Here is the User Guide:
https://help.counter.social/en/latest/
Some suggestions:
Follow people. Ask questions. Just Post them out. Join conversations that interest you. Post music, art, pets, articles pertaining to your interests. Enjoy the site!
@MisterE thank you Ill read that in bed shortly lol id like to be more vulnerable on here, than pretending im this or that and I want to support people and get to know them without fear of something blowing up because of drama. Im going to take all that advice :)
@Paige814 Have a good evening, Paige.
@MisterE im off to bed in a few thanks for the advice, I know ive done the right thing longterm x
@MisterE Thjs is the only place I feel safe about, to me they are all the same really, or will end up the same. I like chatting and laughing and showing my soft side and I cant do that over there and it just makes me even angrier than I already am naturally lol. Maybe I can show the real me now without having to put on an act or be unkind back