One thing I've always been positive on has been what my kids would call me, and that's daddy because that's who I've always been. The longer I'm out and the more stares I get when they say daddy the more hesitant I'm getting. I want them to feel comfortable but also want us to fly under the radar as much as we can from a safety standpoint. Really confused on this one 😔

@MarvelousMadi13 So... I'll say from my experience, there's a point where it does become necessary (for safety, one's own dysphoria, etc.) to talk with the kids.

It certainly felt selfish to me to ask my Smol if she could call me something else, but I also got her involved with it; we looked up the word for "mom" in different languages, talked about how language can make us feel, and so on.

Approached the right way, I bet they'll be happy to help in your transition this way :)

@MarvelousMadi13 Just to tie it off, she decided that I'd be "amá" or "mommy" to differentiate me from "mama" (my primary partner).

It was a little tricky for her at first, but knowing that it was important to me too made her happy to do it, especially as she was involved in the word choice.

Now she says stuff like, "Mom!" *one of us looks over* "No, I mean my other mom." 😆