I've been out of the dating game for the last 13 years since I was with my ex wife. Now we are not together and though the idea of dating again sucks, I may be ready to actually give it a go, though I do have reservations 😑

1) I've always been attracted to women, but the longer I've been on estradiol the more I've found myself curious about men. Problem is most men suck, they view trans women as a fetish or experiment and nobody has time for that.

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I also have trust issues with men. Based on other trans women I've followed there is a risk of assault, rape, or even murder. Not on my list of things to have done.

2) Women can be just as hard to date, especially on dating sites. Many sites only give you options of being interested in men or women. So if a women is interested in women, do they count us as women? Some women are pre-op and others are post-op, does that matter to a cis women who is lesbian? I wish I knew 🤣

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Some sites that have options of pan sexual, asexual, demisexual, etc. So if someone puts lesbian, does that mean she's not into trans women?

3) It can be difficult dating trans women as well. There aren't as many us, so finding someone that matches exactly what you're looking for is tough, and that person may be farther away. Kids play a role too, I'd never move far away from my kids, and I assume other trans people wouldn't as well, which can limit things.

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4) Attraction is a hard thing too. It doesn't matter what gender a person is, if you don't have some sort of attraction, whether physical or emotional it makes it hard to want to get to know someone. Which is something I've always felt bad about. Physical attraction is important to me and I personally need to be attracted to that person I'm with, but I've always felt bad when people liked me, or messaged me and I passed because I didn't have an attraction to them.

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In summary I'm still not sure what to do 🤣 There is nothing I can do to fix my failed marriage, that ship sailed a long time ago. I need to work on me, and work on finding good people to surround myself with. I have a great family and great friends, guess I'm just hoping I can top it off with an amazing partner.

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