Nothing gives you clarity like seeing how people *don't* show up when something goes wrong.
The uncle who sends multiple 20-min VMs about his life? Radio silent after my last reply, in which I mentioned my job loss.
Ditto with a friend who expressly asked me to tell him how last week's meeting went. Silence since Thurs.
And a fellow who always sends me a long Sunday email couldn't be bothered to put in a word responding to my news.
Sometimes I just serve as a sounding board. 🙃 Call me ELIZA.
@MLClark I try not to spend much energy keeping in touch with people like that.
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Oh, 100%. Fool me once, shame on you, etc. Now that I have this new data, it's my responsibility to put it to use. 👍
@MLClark It's really easy for people with senses of loyalty, compassion, duty, and other positive traits to kind of get hornswaggled into spending a lot of attention and energy on people who are _gaming_ that, whether they do it consciously or unconsciously.
I don't think anyone should ever feel bad that they got fooled into bg nice.