I was feeling grouchy after not quite keeping my cool during a chat today.

Essentially, a Canadian with whom I've discussed far right movements *for years* asked me: "You seem interested in the topic of white nationalism: can you tell me what that is and how it differs from Black nationalism?"

It's just frustrating to be asked questions that aren't trolling, but which still come from comfortable ignorance and have to be unpacked on multiple levels.

Brings back "fun" memories of life in KW. 🙃

The problem in that tricity was its two tiers of comfortable ignorance: your garden variety white folk, most working lower class jobs or maybe even unhoused, who found comfort in hard circumstances by holding that they were at least better than non-white persons, and believed themselves the greater social victims.

Then there was the academic equivalent: folks of means who loved nothing more than tacitly defending hateful white conduct via "intellectual" hypotheticals about marginalized people.

@MLClark It's important to note that hateful white nationalism was/is intentionally stimulated & promoted by the upper classes, as part of their divide-and-conquer strategy to prevent the different racial groups making up the proletariat from uniting against their real common enemy - the bourgeoisie.

Right-wing racial hatred is a tool of bourgeois exploitation... and it has been for a very long time, perhaps since the very beginning.

@IrelandTorin

That was a major part of my answer and my frustration with the question. I have outlined many times with him the groups that benefit from stoking up this sentiment for economic gain and power, and the processes by which they operate.

But it's very difficult for this person to see outside their info silo, so the conversation perennially comes back to a superficial racialized dimension, filled with presumptions about me as a feminized leftist who must simply think "white men bad".

@MLClark Ah, I can definitely see why that'd be frustrating.

For what it's worth, I've seen many people exhibit similar inabilities to break out of their closed way of thinking... what you're describing seems to be a fairly common issue.

I bridge the gap between right and left enough to fairly reliably get around that... one of my usual strategies is to agree with (or appear to *) the "what", while covertly undermining the "why" in terms that make me sound like one of them (a rightwinger).

@MLClark Starting out by validating some of their beliefs is a great way to get them to drop their mental guard a bit, so you can follow up with a different rationale for *why* the things they believe are true (in terms that make it sound like something they already believe, even if it's not).

Then you can keep alternating between validation (or apparent *) & alternate rationales. Get it just right, & they'll walk away with completely different beliefs without even realizing anything's changed.

@IrelandTorin

Welcome to... all the work I do.

@IrelandTorin

I know you're offering tips from a well-intentioned place, Torin, and I appreciate that by venting a little about yesterday's chat I opened myself to the presumption of topical ignorance about a wide range of sociopolitical histories and how to dialogue well with people across the spectrum of belief.

This is what I mentioned yesterday, too, when I noted we're all trying to do the best we can--so I appreciate the good intentions behind your comments. Thanks for your passion, too!

@MLClark Oh, it's not presumption of ignorance - sorry if I made it seem that way!

I communicate that way by default - I don't know what the other person knows, and I can have a bit of a hard time differentiating between people (long story) so I just kind of info-dump everything all the time 🙃

Easiest analogy I can give is... well, imagine you only saw people as an instantaneous snapshot of themselves, and interacted based solely on that - with very little past contextual information.

@IrelandTorin

I also recognize that you were responding to my articulated frustration with an attempt to fix it with solutions for next time, which is a very kind and very human response to seeing someone upset!

We have a weird juggling act in our culture, between trying to accommodate for neurodivergence and also push back on 'splainers. I don't sweat folks "infodumping" on topics they care about anymore. Life's a lot easier when one assumes most people are trying to help the best they can.