So, I'm actively trying to calm myself down. Since I arrived in NH, I've been going at full speed because I've had so many things to do personally as well as on the job. I've been in a constant reactive mode and in my brain it hasn't stopped, though things have calmed down. (1/x)
Anybody have any suggestions? I've tried yoga and being still. Both are okay... but haven't yielded any results. Any advice would be very much appreciated. Thanks!
There all sorts of coping skills out there. Is there anything specific you are trying to achieve? Understand, that no matter what skills you choose to learn, there is no quick fix. Tho, it sounds like you're looking for something to slow you down & keep you in the moment..... Mindfulness. These are just some examples. I would be happy to help find something that might work for you.
Boxed breathing
Tai Chi
Meditation/guided meditation
Even something as simple a coloring.
@sugar0addict : Yes, I'd love to just calm my mind and focus. I make so many mistakes because I'm constantly thinking that I should get something done as quickly as I can instead of as thoroughly as I can.
As for tripping over words, a simple thing I've learned is to keep some kind of drink available, whether it is water, coffee, etc. Before speaking, take a drink. It's a short pause, so it's not awkward, but it pauses the mind as well. Practice at home first over the weekend. Even if it's just normal conversation.
@JoeOTAir People work out their stuff differently. I suffer from anxiety. I've found that a walk or just someplace quiet with earphones playing music that suits my mood (sometimes that's classical, sometimes it's hate grunge) or an audiobook that allows me to push everything out, focus on what I'm hearing, and find some inner peace works for me. Good luck to you.
@awnaves : I think that I know what you mean... sometimes my music is balls to the wall angry music and other times it's classical or celtic. I've also started daily walks again.
Thank you!
@JoeOTAir I hope it is helping.
@awnaves : I haven't noticed anything yet... but it's still early. 🤞
Have you been able to recognize any specific triggers when you have moments that are more intense than others? More trip ups?
I remember when you lost the job in Indy and then finding a new one in NH, selling stuff, etc. Trying to come up for air when there’s been such an enormous upheaval isn’t easy. ♥️🫂 It’s what I’m going thru as well.
Have you considered therapy?
@see_the_sus : Yeah, I know the triggers but am having a hard time avoiding them when they're right there.
I went through a LOT of therapy when I lived in Indiana and had a FANTASTIC therapist there. But because of idiotic laws, I can't take my therapist with me when I move out of state. I haven't found one here although I've been through, quite literally, 10.
Maybe the trick isn’t to avoid them? As wacko as this might sound, sometimes I’ll try to talk to the shit that starts to trip me up. Try to have a conversation with it and remind it that I won’t let it hurt me. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn’t.
It is having an impact on my job and my home life... specifically with my job - tripping over words, making stupid mistakes, and other issues having to do with my performance.
I've always been open to mental health challenges and right now I'm having a hard time.. (2/x)