@Indefinite_Article re: adult siblings... me: WTF? Once you're adults who TF gets to order another sibling around? Or manipulate them into doing something.
Where's the WTF are you talking about button? LOL None of us tell anyone else what to do, how to do it, or when.
We generally live in the same hemisphere, but not always.
@Aranciata_rosa @Indefinite_Article in the extended family we have a variety of severely disabled individuals who cant function who have care plans set up. After I became an attorney, I suggested to sibs that they needed to get lawyers to deal with some of these issues. I couldn’t because I wasn’t licensed in their states. My father had dementia, and lived with my brother because bro was available. We seem to be very pragmatic and have specialty areas. Not all families are that way.