Okay, everybody give me a hand. What is your favorite thing to do when you are sad to lift you up? What helps blast away the melancholy when it hits you?
Help cheer me up ❣️
If you have like-minded/empathetic friends…talk to them.
Failing that —
1) Sometimes there’s no choice but to stew in it. Stare out the window and just do nothing. Eventually the feeling will pass, especially if you are aware that there are others like you.
2) Self-reflection/introspection — analyze the root causes of said melancholy. What was the cause? More than one? Can you do anything about the instigating factor/s or no?
If no, see 1). 😏
@InUnfunky
You are wise my friend. When a mood like today hits, just a combo of 1&2 are necessary for a period of time, usually a day before I move on to my more cheerful and optimistic self. Introspection is huge, at least for me. And like all human creatures, turns out I am pretty complex and layered. Not always easy. But, what is?? 😏
(heh #notall human creatures -- at least on an emotional/thinking level -- maybe THAT's a partial cause of said melancholy 🤔 🤷♂️)
Did you suppose you were NOT "complex and layered"? I disagree.
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Yes but also -- I average about a day a week (about an afternoon or so) of "wallowing in it." Yes, literally just sit and stare out the window until the feeling passes...or I feel like an idiot for just staring out the window for too long. Either/or. 😎
Most people -- "not all" (my logic profs wagged fingers at generalizations) -- don't care/want to look beneath the surface. Some can't help themselves...
When I was a kid, I was a "worrier." As 55yo kid, I still am; all worries big and small, heh. This sometimes led to (mostly teen to early adult) ending of relationships which was upsetting. Had to be done or no emo/intellectual growth. Sad!
Induced crippling ?s in the past, now is just half day a week of blahs. 🤷♂️ 😉
@InUnfunky
Yes, completely get this. Looking back. I realize I was always a kid who gauged everyone's emotions around me. Adjusted accordingly. Carried that to adulthood and continued with caring for everybody around me in my professional and personal life.
Learning once and for all (hopefully!) how to prioritize me! And not believe I am selfish.
I have also learned better how to manage it all, as one does. 😉❣️
Cinni, I def think you’ve earned your “bit o’ selfishness.” It’s not like you’re going to turn into a sociopath. 🤔😝
Speaking of, that’s why empathy is important as we know. But “too much” empathy minus the guardrails of critical thought can be trouble (as we know); “open minds but not so open our brains fall out” etc.
Still, tho — better to “feel too much” and make a mistake, and THEN COURSE CORRECT (which presumes thinking and discernment) then not. I feel. 😉😀
@InUnfunky
Thank you Trey.
Follow our hearts, but don't forget our brains ♥️
@InUnfunky
Definitely definitely on a partial cause of melancholy. Unaware people aren't the same.
No, i have known for some time i was complex and layered. 😎
Sorry you understand, but bouts of melancholy are familiar to you as well I see. Hate when I go there. But learning still at this age how to navigate.
Comfort myself with the fact, when we quit growing we die. A lifelong pursuit in all ways. ☺️