I’m 57- and about 4 years ago I found out I have a different dad than I was told. We have texted for the past couple years- and I’m thinking about asking him if he would like to meet. We live in different states, which adds to the anxiety. Afraid of him saying- nah I’m good
@Boilergal
I think you should go for it. The fact that you have been texting for years speaks to the fact that he would be open to meeting. Can you meet halfway in a "neutral" territory?
@Boilergal A former colleague of mine used to say: "Go forward brave". Go for it -- very likely he hasn't asked to meet because he's just as afraid you'd say no.
Good luck
@Boilergal Why hasn't he asked to either go meet you or you come to him?
Don’t know- and why I hesitate to put it out there. Until 2 years ago he had no clue he has a child. It took me 2 years to find him and work up the nerve to send a letter.
@Boilergal Then ask. Otherwise, you'll always regret it. Besides, they're' are only 2 options. Either he'll say yes or no. Talk on phone or via pc? Have exchanged pics? If he says yes, then wonderful. If he says no, you tried.
I can only imagine how difficult it is negotiating all this. My husband grew up knowing he had a bio father he never met along with half-siblings. Long story short, the half-siblings didn't find out about my husband until they were grown. Only two reached out. A couple years ago his half-sister found him on Ancestry, reached out and they both are making an effort to establish some kind of relationship. It's a journey.
If you are 57 how old would he be? 77? Maybe he doesn't travel well.
You could flip the question around. Ask him if he's thought about meeting in person since learning you exist? Start a txt conversation on that subject and see where it leads.
Yeah, he just turned 79. Feel like I should before it’s no longer an option.
You guys are great- thanks for your thoughts!! I appreciate it!!