Fastest way to get a narcissist to out themselves?
The reason why I asked is because I need to make new friends where I have moved to and I have discovered through lots of therapy that I tend to let narcissists into my life so I would like to be able to figure out if they are that way really quickly. I guess what I am looking for is like a hypothetical question you could ask them that's veiled as a getting to know you thing but they would answer in such a way that you would know. Like a VOIGHT KAMPFF test for narcissists.
@scottyorange This might be a little helpful...the article explains how you might be able to tell the difference between someone who is self-centered vs. a narcissist...
https://herway.net/5-ways-to-tell-if-hes-a-narcissist-or-just-self-centred/
@mightymite @scottyorange
I would be hesitant to put too much emphasis on lack of empathy. A narcissist may go to the ends of the earth to help someone who is in dire need. They like to be saviors. Let that person recover and be in a position to reciprocate as an equal -- rather than as a sycophant -- and the narcissist will try to destroy them.
If meeting a person in a new area, you might casually ask who the really influential people in that community are.