Many people mistake realism for pessimism because it seems devoid of hope. Hope is a self deception and often usually a lie that people believe in because realism is too difficult to process.

Despite what you believe realism is not the same as pessimism, nor is it the opposite of optimism. It's a realistic view based on past and present evidence, critical thinking, logic, and the correlation of all of those things. It does not include self deception, delusions or preferred definitions.

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I don't attack people for how they choose to go through life as far as coping mechanisms. If you're a hopeful person or an optimistic person that is 1000% your business and it has nothing to do with me or anyone else. As I am constantly saying ... DO YOU.

It is not something you have to justify to anyone and you don't need to argue with people about how they choose to move through the world or what mechanisms they use.

That includes NEGATIVE people and doombringers and seetheposters.

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For the 1000th time: you DO NOT NEED TO INTERACT WITH ANYONE OR ANYTHING that you see in your feed or anywhere else online. Mind your own business and focus on your own life, your own needs, and your own space to express yourself.

If something is too upsetting for you, ignore it. If something is too realistic for you, move on from it. If people are too negative and nasty and broken or dysregulated for you, let them go or ignore them.

Self care is IMPORTANT and more necessary than ever.

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SelfNESS is key.

Many people think selfish and selfness are the same, they are not. Selfish is doing something for yourself at the expense of another. SelfNESS is doing something for yourself so you can be better for others. Focusing on your own needs and health is important if you're to be able to care for others and be your best for your loved ones.❤️

Focus on YOU, not on what other people are doing, saying, believing etc. You need to bolster YOURSELF in whatever way is best for YOU.

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Angry people will ALWAYS be angry. You cannot reason with people who choose anger over all else. I'm not going to keep repeating what Seneca said about anger being akin to madness ... you can look up all that stuff. It's not your job to try and FIX or CONVINCE people who choose madness. It never was.

Your job is to be the best you can be for yourself and others. To protect yourself and those you love. To be strong, focused, sane, and well minded. Such people will always find each other. ❤️

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The world needs - and has always needed - grounded, emotionally regulated, spiritual, logical, and critically minded people, but it needs them no more than ever.

It needs communities of people who have the same understandings of openness, empathy, and what it means to be a healthy and balanced person who wants to help build things up, not tear them down out of anger, madness, vengeance, and other dysregulated and intoxicating emotions.

Choose your friends, family, and acquaintances wisely.

I will block anyone who brings negativity and emotional dysregulation into my feed. I always have, this isn't new, I am just stating this rule again.

DO YOU ... just don't bring your madness, anger, pessimism, and seetheposting into the garden I curate here on CoSo.

Reason, logic, kindness, and regulation are always welcome in my feed.

If all you want to do is set fire to everything then you're going to only create more problems for a lot of people who already have enough to deal with.

𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘺 𝘮𝘦𝘯, 𝘸𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘦𝘤𝘩 𝘪𝘴 𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘭𝘰𝘶𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘪𝘳 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘥 𝘢𝘴 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦: 𝘯𝘰𝘳 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘦𝘭𝘰𝘲𝘶𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘦𝘯, 𝘛𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘴 𝘓𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘶𝘴, 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘣𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺 𝘢𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 "𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘢 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯."

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𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥: 𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘦𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘰𝘳 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦 𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘦 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵, 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘐 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘶𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘬𝘦𝘯, 𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵, 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘮 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯; 𝘴𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘢𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘦𝘹𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘪𝘯 𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘭 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴.

𝘚𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘣𝘦 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦, 𝘧𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘤, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴; 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘴 𝘶𝘱𝘰𝘯 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘴 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘵. "𝘠𝘦𝘵 𝘣𝘺 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘦𝘤𝘩, 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘰𝘶𝘵𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵. - Seneca