@tyghebright So is queer what you prefer as well? I've been coming out to some close friends as non-binary but as someone closeted for decades it's hard.
Depends on context. Queer is good for many circumstances. If I'm specifically talking about my gender, then I will usually say I'm a trans man.
Often I say gay trans man. But then, that's already getting a little outside the usual definitions of things and is confusing to many folks.
Most accurate is trans masc genderqueer androsexual, but who the fuck understands all that, so Queer is good.
@tyghebright I prefer queer as well. It avoids yet another quip about cookware, in my case.
@PurpleDragon proud of you for coming out! π€ Remember to be gentle with yourself.
@evistre Thank you so much π Still getting the gumption to talk to sis, only one in the fam that won't disown me
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This hurts my heart. When my SIL came out, there was zero question that her brother (my husband) and I would fully support her. Other family feel otherwise, so we don't associate with them.
It took nearly no time to adopt her pronoun, her correct name, and get on with it. Seeing her grow into a happy and at peace woman has been a joy to witness. I'm sorry you have family that won't get to appreciate that. π
I can only offer a virtual mom/sister hug. π«
@Agatha Oh thank you π«
I made this silly movie and sent it to her to get the point across gently. She did text and send me a great big hug π
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmqQysAgYiI&t=6s
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Omg what an adorable way to "come out"! Do you think she already had an inkling? My husband and I had already figured it out so there was no surprise there. Hus knew she was going through some things. He let her know whatever it was, it wouldn't change his feelings. Then we just waited. Took another couple of years as she worked it out. So, we waited. β€οΈ
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You're such great folks, wish there were more out there like you. π
I think a lot of people knew before I ever admitted it to myself. Have always presented more male throughout my life. Even marrying males to fit in even tho it didn't feel right. Still loved them but...
If I'd been able to sooner I'd have had the HRT and surgery but that horse has left the barn.
@Agatha π’ I watch the news and am heartbroken
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Well know that I admire your strength and resiliency.
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Just as there are many on here that I admire those exact qualities ππ
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Truth. We're a rag tag bunch of survivors, that's for sure. π
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Amazing the things we do to try to "fit in" that only make us feel like we fit in even less.
I'm sorry about being late to HRT/surgery. I feel for the trans kids, too. Unfortunately, the push back from the bigots is going to get worse before they're put back in their place (or before they give up & find a new group of people to fear-hate).
When I was a kid, I knew a few kids who were probably trans, but even in San Francisco they didn't dare come out early.