@jasonbu As a Stoic you can still engage in banter, have a pleasant demeanor, and sharp sense of humour? My limited understanding is it's about not being emotionally compromised by that which one has no control - the only things a person has complete control of being their thoughts and actions?
@Clavius_42 Yes, that's the way to think of it. You choose to show emotions that are beneficial. You can absolutely still be you, you are in control.